Entry #6: Truth or Excuse?

 So many times we say, we can't do something, when what we really mean is that we don't want to do it. We tend to defend why we cannot, but in reality, it's not as important to you as what you would be doing instead. For example, sometimes my friend's will invite me out to a bar and I will tell them that I can't go. If you say that you can't do it, it's normally accepted with less of a fight.

When I tell my friend's that I can't go, it might go something like, "I really want to, but I can't. I need to do my homework." Sounds like a pretty legitimate excuse, right? That's because people usually understand that homework is important and that it needs to be done. It's a lie though.

I don't NEED to do homework. I will not DIE if I do not do my homework. I will not FAIL the class due to skipping the one homework assignment. And ultimately, because I am using an excuse, I do NOT really want to go.

SO what am I really meaning when I use this excuse? What I mean to say is, "Although I want to go, I want to do my homework more than I want to go out right now." That right there, would be the truth.

Let's not lie behind an excuse. There is no need to do so. Say what you mean, and mean what you say. Let's work on making communication easy, and keep it that way. :)